So while my 17 year old daughter and I were talking about the upcoming Easter weekend and what was planned so far. She tells me she is going to a party on Friday night. We talk about drinking and drugs at this point and I make my view very clear, in my most nagging mother way. I don't have a big problem with the drinking just the getting plastered part I don't like. And I am totally against any drug use.
She says she wont get drunk-drunk just a buzz. (yea right!) And then asks me if I would buy her some alcohol
So do I buy her a couple of coolers or tell her to take a hike. For sure I wont buy for friends so if I decided to do it, it will be three coolers max and she will pay for it.
What is everyone else opinion?
I'm not really sure if my opinion should even be expressed because my children are not at that age yet. I can tell you that it scares me to think of issues of suck great magnitude that need to be dealt with in regards to our very young adolescents. My only advice would be. Well she can't but the alcohol herself for a reason and maybe that reason (legally underage) should be enough to back you up. But I think that you need to do what you feel is right and what you are comfortable with. I know that in our home we vary in our opinions about the whole alcohol thing even between me and my spouse and my Dad so its a tough decision. However, with regards to our children I don't think that there can be any wrong answers when we act out of love and concern for them... So, whatever you decide it will be all right.
ReplyDeleteWow it is so nice that your asking for my opinion!!!! I say do not buy her alcohol. Do not make it easy for her to drink. Yes we know that she can find another way to get it, so let her. What is the drinking age any way?
ReplyDeleteHummm tuff one.. As a mother of teenagers , I think I might buy two coolers for my child. Yes as a matter of fact I know I would. 17 years old im ok with..I was once that age ,,here the drinking age is 18 ..
ReplyDeletewell, guess I'm with the no way group!!! I know my kids are still to young to deal with this issue, but I feel like helping them do what you are against isn't right. If you get to wishy washy with one issue, what will she expect with the next issue.
ReplyDeleteDear Mom.
ReplyDeleteI am completely responsible, and not nearly as much of a lightweight as you must think I am for 3 coolers to knock me over.
Please realize this and respect my decisions to drink, and ensure that what I get is appropriate and safe based on your discretion :)
Love you too, Your Teenager
My dear lil miss perfect 102, there will be so much time in the future for you to consume as much alcohol as you would like without your mother looking over your shoulder. For now you are only 17 and we as parents have a responsibility to do what we feel is right. Be thankful that you have a mother who cares and who struggles with doing the right thing for you and don't give her such a hard time. Someday you will wish that she can easily wave her magic wand and solve all of your problems. For now take the advice of a very wise woman who always acts out of love and try
ReplyDeleteto understand that your mom will always do what is best for you.